Single Person Guide to Why You Are Single

Ever scroll down Facebook and see your Facebook friend’s engagement announcement? Or what about those cute couples that love to write long, obnoxious Instagram posts about how much they love one another? Or cute couple videos on Snapchat? Or—my personal favorite—what about those stupid, “relationship goals” memes? You ever just felt lonely and just wanted a companion? Well, my friend, you have what we call “why am I single” syndrome. Don’t worry, you are not alone, many suffer from this condition including myself. Is there any way to fix this; of course, the first step is to understand why you are single. Again, don’t worry because I ‘m going to help you understand why you are single and even give you tips on how to not look at the single life as a death sentence. Let’s start by figuring out where you are on the single people spectrum:

1. You are the “I know my worth and I don’t want a mediocre relationship” type.

You are waiting for the right person that meets every single one of your expectations to come and knock you off your feet. You will never settle for anything less than what you require out of a partner. Some people may think you are high maintenance or have high standards, but there’s nothing wrong with you knowing that you’re the best and deserving the best.

2. You are the “I don’t chase after hoes; I chase after goals” type.

Being in a relationship is not a top priority to you because your dreams and ambitions are a driving force in your life, not a relationship. You focus on building your career and success, instead of longing for a companion. You don’t make time for others because your always busy. It is good to focus on your career; however, do not make that your only focus, you still want to make time and build a family.

3.You are the “I’m desperate for anything,” type.

You are the one who makes “finding a relationship” a top priority, you will take anyone just to say you have someone. No matter if the person is low down, no good, or trifling. You need to stop setting your standard so low and know your worth. Try not to rush a relationship with just anybody, be patient and know that there is someone that will treat you right and give you the type of love you deserve.

4. You are the “Early Protective” type.

You instantly assume that you are in a relationship after one date. You become very protective, jealous, and assume things are happening with someone you have not known very long. Stop this right now, you are going to scare that person off, just take it slow and go with the flow.

5. You are the “Painfully Aware of Being Single” type

You are fully aware that you are single and you already have it set in your mind that you will be single forever. You have given up on all hopes of someone coming in your life. It’s how you define who you are. Matter of fact, you start to avoid the topic of dating altogether. You start to feel like the prospect of dating is hopeless and it will be unless you start seeing yourself as a person, not just a single person. Pull yourself together and get back on that dating horse, just because you can’t find someone right now does not mean that you will not find them in the future.

Do not take this as criticism, but simply as the first step to knowing who you are as a person and what you are looking for in a relationship. Being single is not the easiest thing to do when all you see are relationships, whether it is on social media, television, or the people around you. Know that your time will come and you will find that special someone that will make you happy. Until then, enjoy the single life. Enjoy dating life while it lasts, meet new people, discover new personalities, and have fun. Take the time to learn who you are, explore things within yourself and find out your likes and dislikes. Enjoy your own company. Practice self-love before any other love. I always say that “a person should discover their self, before allowing someone else to.”

By Nicolette Rankin and Isaiah Cooper

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